Train Your Child to your Choice
Why training? The question is very simple, I mean it sounds easy, but deep down it is hell difficult. Yes! It is. We all are aware and quite used to professional, academic development, but ever thought of training the character, building a human body into a humane self? Frankly speaking, we had never thought of it, including me, but a few days ago, I came across news that stirred my soul and compelled me to think about making human….. Humane. We all are forgetting humanity, day by day, moment by moment.
In any workplace, we train to get equipped with the all necessary skills to be called PROFESSIONALLY GROOMED. We seldom care to be called human beings as we are living a delusion that we look human so obviously we are human beings! Is that so simple? If yes, then why the suicide rate, corruption, the crime rate is increasing, why society is becoming less considerate and tolerant? What is missing? My dear, my dear… training, training, and training is missing and this very segment gets its start from each and every home. By looking at a man, one should be clear about the females of that house, a queen always raises her male as kings and princes or vice versa.
7 years child is wise enough to recognize things, to differentiate between the two, and this is the very age to train him or her. Don’t raise your children on gender base, treat the both sex equally, for both are human being. According to me train yourself first, before you go for the training of others. Here are some fruitful suggestions for you in order to save this world from inhumane humans!Always listen to your child. Give them confidence that you as parents are their well-wishers, friends and beloveds too. Once this speaking-listening relationship is built, your child is harnessed well and tight.
Set rules and regulations for them. Tell them what to do, when to do and how to do. This process is too too lengthy and time taking as with boys repetition is training, repeat the thing 1000 times for years and then they might understand. Once understood by them, the results are everlasting and evergreen.
Be firm. Never be a puppet at the hand of your child, don’t feed their every wish, restrict them around need base. This will take their inner self to the outer world resulting in care, love and empathy for others. Always choose a middle and moderate way in each and every things.
Give logics. Whenever you are up to making them to stop doing something then do it step wise: sit with them, listen to them, guide them, tell them the consequences of the things, logically.
Always ask why and how question from the children. The reason behind this questioning approach is that it will excite their thinking process and automatically they will understand and critically foresee the situation which will save them from falling in any ditch.
Gather them on dining table/eating mat. Switch off TVs, mobiles in the eating times, have a cup of tea together. Make family time a happy time for them. There must be a bond, a connectivity within the family to get the things going on for eternity.
Prepare them for troubles. Tell children that this life is not a bed of roses, stop comparing your life with that of others. Tell them how to live a happy and contended life with limited resources, with less money or no money at all.
Teach them to care. Read stories to them that cater care and love for all human beings apart from their religion, sect, sex, race, creed, caste, and color. We all share the same flesh and blood, we all bleed, we all feel pain, we all laugh, and we all live, we all die. These qualities are common enough to declare us human beings. When we all look the same, then we all feel the same as well. Spend money, time, care, attention, and love on yourself and on others too.
Be happy, be human.